Getting back in the dating scene again is tough enough but at some point after the initial fun phase of exploring new options is over, the inevitable drive to find someone to settle down with again starts to kick in. While there's nothing wrong with choosing to be a bachelor again for the rest of your life, starting a new serious relationship can be very rewarding. Let's take a look at some tips to prepare you for that next phase of your romance.
Take Time To Figure Out What You Want From A Partner
Dating is fun and it is wonderful to be in a casual relationship - or several at the same time. This is a great opportunity to meet a variety of people and maybe try different ways to be physically and mentally intimate with them. However, if you are ultimately looking to settle down with a partner again, you should take this time to evaluate what's most important to you.
For instance, what do you want in a partner's personality, lifestyle and values?
For divorced dads this is even more important since part of your objective in finding a new partner might be to find someone to replace those things your children needed from their mother and so you feel compelled to consider those things while evaluating a new partner too.
By answering these things to yourself you will be able to better identify what you are looking for in a long-term relationship that may eventually lead to another marriage.
Be Open And Honest About Your Life Goals
When you enter a new relationship, it is important to be honest about your goals for the future.
If you are intending to have children again or if you do not want to move away from your current place of residence, make sure that the other person is aware of this before things get serious. This way, they know what they’re getting into and it will help avoid any misunderstandings down the road.
This honesty may cause heartbreak but it is better to experience this while you are simply dating, rather than to hide your feelings and create a much more complex and emotionally charged situation later.
Prepare A Plan To Manage Combined Finances
A big part of serious relationships involved some element of combining finances. This may include a joint bank account, co-signing a mortgage, or listing your partner as a beneficiary on various assets that you control.
In some instances, you may want to avoid mingling your assets until you have a formal marriage contract but in other instances it is easier to simply be life partners rather than husband and wife.
Whatever you chose though, in a serious relationship that involves living together and making purchases together, you should consider preparing a plan and at very least having a discussion about things like who will pay for what out of which accounts.
By doing this from the beginning, you can avoid one party making assumptions that could cause pain later.
Continue To Focus On Self Improvement
When you first started dating, I'm sure you focused on working out and eating better. You probably even focused on mental health improvements as well so that you could put your best foot forward when meeting a new lady out on a first date.
Don't give up on this!
It’s important to take care of yourself even after the initial dating phase is over. Likewise, it is important to be as healthy as possible too. If you’ve struggled to maintain healthy habits in the past, then now is the time to finally make that change and create a healthy regimen that is sustainable.
You may even consider doing plastic surgery or try freezing with CoolSculpting for men to accelerate those physical attractiveness goals that you are still struggling to meet.
Don't Rush Into A New Relationship
Whatever you do, don't feel that you need to rush into a new relationship. This is especially true if you've just recently become divorced and want to start dating again. Take some time to heal and get to know yourself again before pursuing a new love interest.
It may seem attractive at first, but jumping into a new relationship too quickly could end up being more damaging than helpful in the long run. After all, you don't want to create any extra drama for yourself or for your children.