Sometime a divorce seems like the best option. Things may just not be working out and despite trying to reconcile it just isn't the right path and other times, there's an incident that might make one of both parties sure that divorce is the only solution. Whatever situation you might find yourself in, divorce is never an easy solution and all too often, men end up being on the losing end of any legal decision.
Wedding days mostly come with exciting and memorable moments; the exchange of solemn vows, confessions of undying love, merrymaking, and the honeymoon that follows. But the aftermath leaves most couples with a harsh reality - about 39% of marriages in the US alone end in divorce. But as familiar as divorces are now becoming, they are never a fun experience. And most divorcees end up living with the consequences of the fallout for the rest of their lives. So, do you feel unhappy in your marriage? Are you thinking of moving on quickly with a divorce? Don’t rush it, at least, not until you have made the following considerations first.
Have You Considered Your Emotions?
People say stuff they don’t mean and feel a myriad of emotions (mostly anger and pain) in the heat of the moment. But the last thing you want is to make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.
There is a second wave of emotions. As we have already mentioned, the divorce process is never a fun one. And even the party that pushes for the process to start usually gets depressed and sad throughout.
The third wave of emotions sets in after the process is finalized, and the party has to deal with the anxiety of starting a new life all over.
Have You Exhausted All Other Alternatives?
Unless you find yourself in a very abusive relationship that affects your health or threatens your life, divorce may not be the first or best solution. For example, have you tried talking things over with your partner? Have you taken the time to tell them lovingly how you feel and what is going wrong? Have you tried counseling or speaking with someone that can help? Have you recognized your own part in the issues causing your marriage to fall apart?
Have You Considered The Financial Implications?
Getting a divorce means starting all over - taking the time to build your life all over again. For one party, it means moving out and getting a new home or even a new source of funding. But before all that, the divorce process may not also be a cheap one. For example, you may want to hire a divorce attorney, the battle for child custody in court, settle on financial settlements, and so on. And these cost a lot of money. In fact, many people have ended up breaking under the long-term economic consequences of a divorce, with some unable to recover. Have you also considered the effect on your citizenship status? For example, if you’re thinking about how to divorce an immigrant spouse, have you considered if the process could cost them their citizenship status?
Have You Considered What Is Best For Your Children?
If you have kids caught up in the crossfire, you need to tread extra cautiously. That is especially important if you have very young children who have to deal with the consequences of not having both parents together. The process may be tough on you, but it will be ten times tougher on your little ones - not to talk of swinging them back and forth between one parent and another.